“If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing” 1 Corinthians 13: 3
Often, in life, we become overwhelmed with all that we have taken on feeling very depleted and as many of us discover “with nothing to show for it”. We have to work, our husbands/wives need us, children require our time. We care for aging parents and friends call on us for support. We surrender “me time”, we put off going back to school, cancel gym memberships and rarely tend to our own needs. Does this sound familiar?
One of our greatest challenges in life is finding balance. Time to do the things we need to do and time to enjoy the fruits of our labor. At some point many of us justify short changing ourselves because we feel guilty about not being everything for everyone around us. What if I take that vacation and something happens while I am gone? What if I sign up for school and no one is home when the kids get there? What if I spend that money? What if I oversleep? It is never a blessing to be everything for everyone and yet nothing for yourself. Should I say that again?
It is never a blessing to be everything for everyone else and yet nothing for yourself. When we give, let it be from a place of abundance. Give love to others by first having love for yourself. Give time to others by first making time for yourself. You see when we experience the benefit of the gift, we can give it more abundantly. How can you counsel someone if you are stressed out yourself? How can you loan money if all your bills are behind? How can you give love if you don’t feel you deserve love?
I have met some of the most giving, loving people in the world. They will surrender the shirt on their very back but live in misery. Somehow in all their good deeds they feel unworthy of partaking in some of that goodness for themselves. The relationships we nurture should come from a wholeness and ability to share some of what is in us, not just out of courtesy or “doing the right thing”. Once you love yourself you will give a love that moves mountains. Once you take care of yourself you will care for others in a way that uplifts, supports and empowers. Wholeness thereby speaks to your abundance. Think about it when you have a car you love you put in the “good” gas, that represents the way we love others, but when you driving the hooptee any ole gas will do, that represents how we treat ourselves.
How can you put more into being a blessing if you are not first thankful for YOUR blessing? Do you intend to treat your blessings as burdens? You see life is a blessing. Love for self is a blessing. Balance is a blessing. It is time to embrace our blessings and walk in our truth. Let your motto be “ I am better to you when I am great to me.” An abundance of love will allow us to give and never run dry. Why? Because we have tapped into a source who never runs short on the supply.
How do you know when your balance is off? You feel it. Too tired to think, overwhelmed and depressed. Alone and annoyed…depleted. Balance is key. There will always be just 24 hours in a day, no matter how you look at it. The quantity of time spent will not change the world but the quality of time spent will. Your best life is still waiting for you to receive it. Gain from it so that you may share the abundance with others.
“Faith, hope and love…but the greatest of these is love” 1Corinthians 13:13